This morning I woke at 5.30am with a migraine headache. Ostensibly it was not the best start to my day but now as I write this post at 10am I know what a powerful gift my morning migraine was to me today. This post is about three crucial concepts, – Resistance, Acceptance and Letting go, or allowing. It is about how awareness of how to apply these three simple concepts, can change your life.
Years ago I used to get many migraines. For those who know have experienced a migraine I don’t need to say anything else; for those who have yet to have one I ask that you do not even focus your thoughts there, as thoughts become things you know! Nowadays, I only have migraines when there is something in my life that I need to pay some attention to, an energy I need to shift or a door I need to open.
When we experience pain on the mental, emotional or physical level, we have a strong tendency to resist it. We don’t want it, we want it to stop and we effectively push hard against it. This of course, focusses our attention on the pain we are experiencing and we all know what that does! If we can instead accept the moment, or accept that we are expereincing pain, then we soften ourselves into a place where we can start to move towards letting go. For me, my migraine brought choices:
Shall I hold on until I have identified what is behind it?
Shall I let it go first?
I want to share with you how I dealt with it as I hope this will provide some powerful learning as this lesson can be applied in so many situations.
How I Stopped Resisting
I got up and showered and recognised firstly exactly where I was at:
- In a lot of physical pain and nausea
- Annoyed because I have to do list as long as my arm to day and patients to see
- Worried that my day was not how I had planned it so how was I going to get everything done?
I called a bodyworker I know well who fitted me in for a brief table session before his early morning clients. As I lay on his treatment table I concentrated on forgiving myself for creating this migraine and on accepting the pain in my head and the nausea. From there I drove straight to the beach as it is my favorite place, took off my shoes and put my feet in the water.
The beach was almost entirely empty. The sand was so white and the colour of the sea was so beautiful that it gave me an ache of gratitude deep in my chest for the world we are so fortunate to live in. I breathed some powerful cleansing breaths and reached a place of total acceptance. From this point I could truly move into letting go.
I played with the experience in the moment:
- of being me
- feeling the sand on my feet and the cool water (it’s winter!)
- the sound of the early morning birds
- the sound of the wind in the trees
- the feel of the winter sun on my face
Just Let Go
I let the migraine go in the space of about 10-15 minutes of just BEING, along with any resistance I was holding that allowed me to create it. I forgave myself again and experienced gratitude for myself for providing such a great reminder lesson of how this process works.
Now this was just a migraine and sometimes, for deeper and more difficult issues, this process takes hours, days, months; but it is still the same process and consciousness along the way will ease your path.
It is neither easy nor difficult to move through physical, emotional, ,mental or spiritual pain. It just IS and I hope that by sharing this three stage process you will bring consciousness to your life choices around it next time you feel stuck.
Sending gratitude to everyone who is truly engaged in this wonderful life!
© Sam Adkins 2010